You know that “thing” that some women just exude that says their confident? You may not be able to put your finger on exactly what it is but you’d love to put it in a bottle and wear it every day! Sound familiar? There are several habits of confident women that we will share here!
Toss that bottle theory out the window and use these 10 habits of confident women to exude that same kind of story without saying a word.
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The Power of Positivity
I don’t know about you but I have yet to meet a woman that exudes confidence and dwells in the negative things in life. Really think about it. Confident women rarely get bogged down with the things that are going wrong around them. Are they perfect? Not even close, but they are typically pretty positive.
Optimism is something that can’t be measured but it makes a huge difference in everything that happens throughout your day.
We all have those “things” that happen that are either unfair, unjustified or just plain wrong. Whatever it is … it’s done. What you do with it is up to you! They take each situation and use it for good.
Sometimes it’s the small stuff that can make you want to scream. Next time you hit that wall of negativity find the “glass half full” in the situation.
Another way to look at how you can exhibit one of the habits of confident women is to not give that thing or that person that frustrated you the power to change your outlook. It takes a lot of effort at first but it’s worth it!
Confident Women Are OK With Saying NO
You have all heard the motto “Just Say NO”. It applies to all aspects of your life.
It’s important for you to say no when saying yes means you will be giving up something important to you. Ladies, we are the WORST at this. For whatever reason we just struggle with telling someone “no, I’m not able to do that” or “no, unfortunately that won’t work for me.” What is our deal??
Don’t get me wrong. When you want to and you can help someone out, by all means, do it and do it with joy! But sometimes agreeing to do that one thing throws absolutely everything else off kilter!
The second habit of confident women is to be able to say no when it’s necessary and do it in a way that is both kind and unapologetic.
Confident Women Question the “Norm”
Think about the last time you interacted with a woman that just oozed quiet confidence of maybe you saw her as a strong woman. Did she go with the flow on everything or did she push the limits a bit?
In my experience it’s been the women that aren’t afraid to go out of their comfort zone but do it without making a ton of waves that are the most confident. It’s pretty amazing to see.
Confident women recognize that everyone doesn’t have to agree with them. They recognize that it’s totally ok to be and do what you know is right and best. It’s their mentality and the fact they are ok with everyone having a different opinion that makes their confidence impossible to miss.
Did you know that anywhere from 70-90% of what you communicate is non-verbal? In other words, what you actually say is only accounting for 10-30% of your conversation or communication. Crazy, right?
The kicker here is the louder your body language is, the less your verbal communication matters in the conversation.
If you were to close your eyes and imagine someone telling you “no, really, it’s ok” with a facial expression that is sincere and they extend their hand out as they say it, you can feel the genuineness of their words. Now, let’s use that same phrase, “no, really, it’s ok” with a more aggressive tone, a bit of an eye roll and arms folded. That same phrase just took on a whole new meaning!
Now, specifically related to confident women, one habit they all have is, their body language is intentional. Emotions don’t dictate their actions and their body language shows it.
So next time you are in front of a mirror and no one else is around just replay a conversation. How did you react? Did you exude confidence in your body language?
Don’t forget that body language when you are all alone, when others are around but not engaging in conversation, it all tells a story. Be sure that you are the one writing the book on YOUR story.
Wear “YOU” With Confidence
No confident woman is out there apologizing for who she is or what she believes. Does that mean she doesn’t consider what others have to say along the way? Of course not, but she definitely doesn’t apologize for being who she is.
All too often, we as women have a tendency to apologize for ourselves rather than what we mean to be sorry for. For example, simply saying “I’m sorry” leaves a whole lot to interpretation in a conversation. However, saying “I am so sorry that you had to deal with that.” leaves little to the imagination.
Something my husband and I always told our kids as they were growing up was, words mean things… say what you mean.
The reality is you are the way you are for a reason. You became who you are through a unique series of events and situations. Regardless of how good, bad, crazy they were…. you are the only version of you out there. So be ok with being the best version of yourself! You earned it!
Humble & Kind Works For Everyone
There is nothing worse than a person that can’t stop telling everyone how amazing they are, what great accomplishment they just had or how you should do “x”.
Confident women aren’t boastful. They also aren’t mean. There is a significant difference between a woman that has done great things and great woman. Typically, the trail of people still standing or being knocked out of the way in the process can tell you which one she is.
Strive to be humble and kind while still being confident in yourself and your mission in life. If you don’t know what that is yet (you are not alone) then just approach each situation with this mentality.
Confident Women Are Goal Oriented
Regardless of what your career is, whether you have a career or not… goals are important. Your goal might be to get all of your kids out the door in the morning without raising your voice or it could be to finish that big project at work meeting all criteria ahead of schedule.
It doesn’t matter what your goals are. Having goals is important. It feels great to meet a goal! If you have no goals and you are going through your days… one after the other… it begins to become monotonous. Set some goals for yourself! It feels great to know you are accomplishing what you set out to do!
Organization and Planning Are Key
Women who are successful and confident understand the importance of being organized.
On differing levels they plan their day, their short term and long term goals and know what it is they want to accomplish to meet the goals they’ve set. They understand that saying you want to accomplish something isn’t enough. You have to have a plan on how to get the job done.
If organization isn’t your forte, consider this. You get things accomplished every day. Getting things done isn’t the problem. How to plan them out is the most common hurdle.
Throughout my years of coaching, leading and teaching that working the situation or problem backwards is most helpful if this is something you struggle with.
For simplicity, let’s say you have the goal of running a marathon. You aren’t going to go out tomorrow (assuming this isn’t something you already do) and expect to run a whole marathon. You will set milestones to increase your ability to run further and further. This is no different from any other goal that you have in life.
Confident women use planning and organization to meet their goals.
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Confident Women Understand The Value of Self-Care
Dedicating time to take care of yourself extends your ability to “be there” both physically and mentally for others, or your job, or … fill in the blank with any commitment you have.
You and I see it way too often. Women are trying to do it all with no rest, no time for themselves and no consideration for their own body and mind. Burnout is just around the corner. Ladies, we are not very good at this as a whole, without intentionally focusing on it. Especially if you are a mom!
Believe In The Power Of YET
If you had to nail down a habit that confident women have it would be that they believe in the power of yet. Rather than saying I didn’t meet my goal, they say, “I didn’t meet my goal…yet.”
If you are in education you are used to hearing this term used quite often. Even as a parent we tell our children not to worry because they will get it! They just didn’t get it yet.
To sum it all up, the most powerful habit of confident women is the recognition that it’s ok say “I haven’t done “x” yet…” There is no expectation for perfection, only continued growth.
10 Habits of Confident Women
The bottom line is there are some very specific habits that strong women have and see great success (defined in any number of ways) with. You and only you can decide what that looks like for you. Hopefully these 10 habits will help you gain confidence too!
- Practice Positivity
- Say “No” When It’s Best
- Question The Norm
- Awareness Of Body Language
- Confident Without Being Apologetic
- Exhibit Humility and Kindness
- Goal Oriented In All Things
- Organize & Plan
- Value Self-Care
- Believe In The Power of Yet
This post was all about the habits that confident women exude and the impact it has on their life.